Communicating Preferences: How to Tell Your Escort or Masseuse Exactly What You Want

Before you walk into a session, take a minute to figure out what you actually want. Are you after a deep‑tissue rub, a light head massage, or something a bit more sensual? Write down the top three things you expect – pressure level, focus areas, and any hard limits. Having a short list in your head (or on your phone) makes the next step a lot easier.

Know What You Want

Being honest with yourself is the first rule. If you’re nervous about asking for a specific technique, remember the professional is used to a range of requests. Mention your experience level – rookie, regular, or seasoned – so the provider can adjust the intensity. If you have a medical condition, a recent injury, or a particular area you don’t want touched, say it up front. A quick "I’m new to deep tissue, can we start light?" saves time and avoids awkward moments.

Speak Clearly and Respectfully

When you reach out, keep the message short and to the point. Something like, "Hey, I’m looking for a 60‑minute head and back massage, medium pressure, and I’m okay with a bit of sensual touch if it’s offered." Avoid vague phrases like "something special" – they lead to misunderstandings. If you’re using a booking platform, use the “special requests” box; if you’re texting, bullet points work well.

During the session, check in once or twice. A simple "Is this pressure okay?" shows you care about the experience and gives the provider a chance to tweak things. Most professionals welcome feedback; they’re trained to adjust on the fly. If something feels off, speak up politely – "Could we focus more on my shoulders?" – and you’ll both end up satisfied.

Boundaries matter. If you’re not comfortable with certain activities, be upfront. Phrases like "I’m not into any intimate touch today" or "Let’s keep it professional" set clear limits without sounding hostile. The key is to frame it as a preference, not a rejection. Most providers respect a clear "no" and will adapt the session to stay within your comfort zone.

After the appointment, a quick thank‑you text that mentions what you liked reinforces good communication for next time. Something like, "Loved the focus on my back and the extra foot work – can we do that again?" lets the provider know what works and encourages them to repeat it in future bookings.

Bottom line: know your own wants, state them simply, check in during the session, and give feedback afterwards. This recipe turns a good experience into a great one, every time.